Month: October 2016

As a relatively new leader in singles ministry, I’ve encountered an unwritten rule that goes something like this:

Unless you are married (happily or otherwise) and regardless of your spiritual depth, scriptural knowledge or Christian experience, your leadership in ministry will be suspect.

Thank you for your willingness, but please get married first, then reapply for the leadership position. And should you be divorced or subsequently get a divorce, any previously demonstrated depth, knowledge, and experience immediately disappears. Per the …

For a lot of my single years, I was hopelessly awkward. No doubt, there were still attractive things about my personality (or at least my mom says there were), but overall, I was kind of weird.

In college most of my awkwardness came from die-hard legalism, a weird, evangelical asceticism that involved no dating, parties, movies, TV, secular magazines, secular music or Christian music that sounded too secular. Moreover, I felt compelled to announce my convictions to everyone and make …

An hour of your time. That’s all it takes to ensure a rosy romantic future. Meet a stranger, look into their eyes, throw around a few words and glances, and wait for the chemical reaction. If you feel it – the frisson, the shudder, the flutter – rejoice! The foundation for a wonderful relationship is laid. If not, if there’s nothing there but another human staring back, with all their imperfections, it’s time to shrug and move on. Back to …

‘Someone gave me a prophetic word that my future husband lives in a particular city, that I must step out in faith to meet him, and that we’ll have children, which I long for,’ said the letter. ‘I’m very excited and I’m now planning to relocate. This will mean leaving my job and moving to a place where I don’t know anyone, but I want to be obedient and it’ll be worth it to meet the man God has planned …