“What I was looking for back then isn’t what I’m looking for now”, a 40-something coaching client said recently as she updated me on her dating progress. So true, I thought. As we mature, our wants, needs, hopes and dreams change.
In my 20s and early 30s, I had incredibly rigid ideas about the sort of man I thought I wanted to end up with. He had to have a certain look, a certain career and be of a certain …
Read MoreIf I happen to mention I write about faith and relationships, the questions flow. When to date. Who to marry. How to make good decisions. Even who to spend time with. Who, how, what, where, when. So many questions. And, of course, there’s a dizzying array of possible answers…
In theory, Christian dating and relationships should be straightforward. Wait patiently and at the right time a God-chosen soulmate will appear, marriage will soon follow and lifelong happiness and fulfilment will …
Read MoreModern dating seems to come with a whole new vocabulary. You may have heard about ‘ghosting’ – where someone you’ve been dating or exchanging messages with suddenly cuts off contact with no explanation – and might even have experienced it. ‘Zombieing’ is another dating term that’s made a recent appearance. What is it? Well, if that ghoster who disappeared without warning appears later and makes contact again as if nothing has happened, you’ve been zombied.
Why might a person ‘zombie’? …
Read MoreWhat do girls need to pay attention to when dating? Love has its ups and downs on the road. It can’t be plain sailing. So, learn dating skills and keep your love. Here, we will teach you how to fall in love and learn four skills to make you fall in love easily. Don’t take an absolute attitude. There is no need for two people in love to get married. If they are not suitable, you can say goodbye. If …
Read MoreThe other day I finally got around to watching Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s brilliant TedX talk on that a friend recommended to me ages ago. In it Chimamanda talks about equal partnership between men and women. Midway through her talk, she refers to the different standards especially in dating and marriage when it comes to men and women. Where women are sometimes rebuked or dismissed as failures when they haven’t married before a certain age, men are usually simply excused as …
Read More‘Do you think it’s important to have chemistry with someone you’ve just met, or can it develop over time?’ That’s the question Christian Connection recently posed on its social media pages – and something many of us will have considered on our dating journey: ‘I like this guy, but I don’t know if I’m attracted to him…’ or ‘She’s great on paper, but do we have enough of a spark?’
It’s a legitimate concern. Relationships endure based on character and …
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